This week's guest blog comes from Randall, of
ikimashou.net and the NSFW
Onii-chan no Ecchi. Did I mention that site's NSFW? Some of the content of this post will also be NSFW, by virtue of being about porn-- though the images are PG at best. Still: you've been warned!
There's been a fair bit of buzz about
Equality Now going after Rapelay (never mind that the game came out years ago and that, true to form, their outrage is more likely to boost sales than to diminish them), and I thought you guys could stand to hear outrage on the matter from someone other than myself. Randall takes the proactive approach: here's how to understand hentai, whether you're a fan or not. Hope you enjoy!
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Why are people after my precious forms of Japanese pornography? Why do
they so desperately want to do away with the things that I love?
Well, there's a number of reasons and I'm going to lay a number of them
out for you now. Unless you stopped reading after I brought up my
penis. But really, the porn brought up my penis. Awww yeah. Ok, that's
enough of that shit.
Familiarity
While lots of women, and a few insanely religious men, are opposed to
regular old double-penetration and barely-legal teen gangbangs, a damn
sight more people are quick to judge anything that wanders into the
two-dimensional realm.
Now, we're talking about Japanese 2D porn here. People think Kim
Possible porn is weird because the show is for kids so people apply an
amount of innocence to the characters that they didn't necessarily ask
for. As for Japanese ero art, the problem is one of familiarity.
By and large, the Western world is fairly insular and, by nature of the
Judaic religions, also carries a great deal of shame and denial as
relates to sexual gratification. That is to say, women put their
fingers inside their vaginas, but talking about it is taboo because
there's a lot of shame attached (among other things, I'm working
against the clock here).
Anyway, that combination of insularity and the inability to openly
enjoy things that are sexually gratifying makes for a fairly potent
reaction to something that is both borne of a foreign culture and
sexually gratifying.
That might require a bit of explanation: I know there
are some Europeans reading this and thinking "Hey! I'm pretty worldly,"
but the fact of the matter is that you likely know less about Japanese
culture than you know about ancient Greece or Egypt. That's a pretty
bold statement, I know. But it's backed up on a daily basis when well-known bloggers who shall remain nameless make blatantly
incorrect statements about a country in which they live.
It's human nature, though. We strive for familiarity because it's the
only way we can feel comfortable. People stay in rut jobs and shitty
relationships because they're familiar. So take the fire of a
completely foreign culture (no Judaic dogma, chopsticks, etc.) and
throw fuel on it in the form of boobies, it sends simple minded people
into a spiral of discomfort so twisting they can only start screaming
for the government to make it all better for them. It's a sad case.
Subcultures
While the overarching theme here is that the Judaic (we're talking all
spin offs here, not just Judaism) mindset has led to a lot of sexual
shame, it doesn't so much describe societal reactions to 2D porn so
much as it explains the underlying reason people act the way they do.
The other elephant in the room is mainstream society. While pornography
in and of itself is fairly mainstream, 2D porn is seen as something for
nerds, weirdos, rapists, and pedophiles. Why is that?
Well, in a way it ties back to the first point about familiarity.
Subcultures are, by their very nature, unfamiliar territory for the
mass populace. This is one place that those of us who love the stuff
which makes us all juicy aren't doing ourselves any favors.
Yes, I am talking to you, socially inept, fat, odorous weirdo. Stop
standing in the corner and breathing heavily. Will it change the stigma
behind admitting that you look at 2D porn? No, not really. But it will
go a long way towards making your local reactions a lot more favorable.
But that's not the whole thing. Subcultures always have the stereotypes
that go along with them. If you're in a frat, people think you probably say bro a
lot and think the shocker is the greatest sexual maneuver yet invented.
If you're black, people think you steal things. If you're an anime nerd, you are
obviously socially inept, fat, and probably scratch yourself more often than you
should.
That's sort of the problem. When you tie that anime nerd stereotype
together with the pornography aspect, the person you've just mentioned
2D pronography to will immediately picture you as a greasy fat guy
pulling one off over weird porn of girls with pink hair and a school
uniform.
Too many people present an image that lends itself to that. Or they're
quick to get defensive when people think they're fucked up for what
they choose to rosin up their bow with. This is the WRONG way to go
about things, kids. Believe me.
So what do you do? Act insanely casual about it. The problem here is
that YOU need to be comfortable with it to act casual about it. This
requires introspection. You need to know better than any person why you
like the things you do. You need to understand your own sexuality. They
will likely want to know because, well, who wouldn't be curious about a
guy who is so comfortable with something so insanely foreign to them?
Maybe it's not as weird as it sounds, they'll think.
Getting Comfortable
I'd briefly considered making this about the perfect setup for
masturbating, but I have to leave you guys wanting, so instead I'll
give some suggestions of things you can consider, regardless of which
side of the 2D porn divide you're on.
We'll start with the pro-hentai kids. As I said above, you need to know
why you like the things you do. This sort of introspection can be
applied to anything and it's really a generally good way to grow as a
person. People might be bothered that I say that in relation to porn,
but they're just shortsighted prudes anyway.
So how does one go about realizing what they like? Well, it'll sound a
bit odd and complicated, but no one picks up a guitar and knows all the
chords, so shut up. You have to learn to think objectively about
yourself, pretty much. Again, I know it sounds odd, but it's helpful
stuff. When you're watching your favorite porn, you'll notice the
things that cause your brain to feel just a little bit warmer or more
aroused or more relaxed or satisfied. This will likely be different
things in different people, but you have to learn to recognize it for
what it is if you ever hope to put words to the feelings you get from
watching your eroanime. Was it the expression on the face of a girl?
The detail put into the backs of a characters knees? The slight squeak
that guy let out as the other guy rammed him? Realize
those things and remember them.
A lot of you might jump to the conclusion that this is apt to make you
enjoy the porn less, but I've found the reaction to be somewhat the
opposite. When you see those things you love, you feel closer to the
eroticism. More satisfied and comfortable. It's good times.
Now, for you haters out there. Well, maybe not haters. But skeptics.
I'll point you back to the beginning of the post. Familiarity. How
familiar are you with the subject matter? How many eroanime have you
watched? How many eromanga have you read? It's something of a theme on
my own site, but I'll say it here, the more you look at something
erotic, the more apt your mind is to pick up on the erotic nature.
It'll do it whether you want it to your not.
And that's my second point. A lot of the repulsion regarding
pornography stems from a lack of willingness to fully allow oneself to
take part in the experience. You might consider going in with an open
mind, actively looking for things you might like rather than shutting
your mind off and assuming you will hate everything you see. Be honest
with yourself. And remember, just because the porn you're looking at
doesn't have anything that turns you on, that doesn't mean it doesn't
exist. Eroanime and eromanga span all genres and fetishes. If there's
something you think you'd like to see, it's out there, I can promise
you that.
Now, boys and girls, go put something in yourself. It'll make you feel better.
Credits
Randall Fitzgerald is the owner of the occasionally-updated Ikimashou.net, of Dasaku.net, which hosts a variety of anime blogs and the img.dasaku.net board (which can be NSFW), and of course, the (definitely NSFW) Onii-chan no Ecchi blog and podcast. He's been a hopeless hentai addict for a long time and wouldn't dream of being otherwise.
on May 17, 2009